Death vs Life

How often do we hear... Poor guy suffered a painful death.

How can a person suffer painful death? The pain is felt when person is alive. So should not one say...painful life? Why blame death?

People are always afraid of dying. Infact why should  one be afraid of death...scared of death...has anybody known what is beyond death. Life on other hand can be scary....still we cling on to Life and fear Death.

Is Death really bad...and Life always good?

Candy Crush Life

I find a lot of similarities between the game and life. You are stuck on some level…you try …try …try and go ahead…or you just give it up.

You are on a particular level….and then when you look behind, you see the levels you have completed…and you see ahead … levels in which you dont know what is to come. You see behind and like your own achievements….and then there are some levels which you crossed…which you would not like to remember…and hope you dont get to play again. You just thank your stars that you are over with it.

Some levels you clear on your own…some levels you ask your friends for help.

Some levels you play for weeks together…. trying to end it…frustrated….not able to complete it…and then all of a sudden you have clear it out of the blue and proceed ahead to other levels.

Life is quite similar….just when you think you are down and out…you will realise that you have moved ahead…leaving certain things far behind….achievements…troubles….you know what you have gone thru in the past…you dont know what lies ahead in the future…..

The potted plant

Was watering the plants today morning…and once again my attention went to the Christmas tree which is now standing tall at around 8 ft…many times in the past have blogged about it…then my attention went on to the other plants…. being lucky to have a terrace of my own…have time and again re-potted them into bigger flower pots..and they have grown…but then…their growth again gets restricted because of the size of the pot. It also reminded me of a saying…a seed which falls near its tree will never grow tall, unless it starts growing at a distance where it has more space, away from the parental tree.

Kids are similar. Their development is restricted if the environment they grow up in is restricted. Even they should be let free…free to seek other pastures….your nurturing is important no doubt…but the more they seek…they more they develop mentally, which is always helpful to them. Dont restrict them in a small pot, while they have the entire world to grow in…

Just a thought…so decided to save it in this blog

Shit Happens

Many a times I have to lend a concerned ear to my staff woes. Now one such person married off his daughter 3 years back to his wife's brothers son. So infact this was marriage between cousins.

All was well in the paradise until recently the girl started suspecting something was amiss when her cousin sister(her moms other brothers daughter…and effectively the hubby’s cousin too) started spending a lot of time at their place.

She kept her phone camera on, and left the house on pretext of going to the market. On coming back her fears were confirmed with the video clip of her hubby and her cousin(and hubbys cousin too) on the bed.

Now totally three families relationships are in doldrums…my staff’s member’s family…and his two brotherinlaws families in addition to the couples !!

I used to wonder where does Ekta Kapoor get all the shit she shows in her serials…but now I know…Shit Happens!!!

 

Ps. Last I know…its been 3 days the hubby and the other girl are missing from their homes and untraceable…..

The Slut?

Was discussing live-in relationship with a friend and then even posted the topic on my community group. As usual the discussion on the community group went haywire and the one with the friend was very vocal.

The mentality of many, with whom I have discussed this topic is that they look upon the female as a slut, whore. I have always argued why dont u call the boy with similar names…never received a reply from them.

Personally I dont have anything against live-in relationships…its a mutual understanding between two individuals. But then why blame only one partner if you are against it.

Forget live-in relationships…even with extra marital affairs…it is always the female who is blamed. Is the man involved in the extra marital affair innocent then ?

In our society when a man breaks off his live-in or extra marital affair and returns back to the family…he is “Subah ka bhula, Shyam ko lauta” and if a female returns back she is subjected to a lot of names and in most cases not accepted back in the family.

We live in a MCP society actually….

Traff*&ked

Being a Mumbaikarr I know how bad it can get when you are stuck in traffic. A two minute distance takes not less than 15-20 mins to cover sometimes. Sometimes the car is just stuck there in the same place. One cant even move in any direction.

Yesterday was stuck for nearly 20 mins at the same place. While there I could hear a faint siren of an ambulance. Now I am not sure if the ambulance was on its way to pick up a patient, or on its way to drop the patient to a hospital… or if at all in line of duty. But yes…began to wonder what would happen to a patient in case stuck in such traffic.

Why just get Traffucked on any road…imagine getting stuck on the road to an important hospital. Take the case of Hinduja Hospital at Mahim. A school in its vicinity with its all ultra rich students coming in cars occupy the road and create jams over there for almost half an hour in the morning. These car owners care a damn about traffic rules, cutting across the lanes, taking U-turns from where ever they feel comfortable. I have seen parents just park their cars and talk to other parents without caring a damn about the traffic situation. I shudder to think of a medical emergency patient getting stuck because of this stupidity. I am being told that there are other schools also, where similar situations occur daily.

Forget ambulance, what if there is a medical emergency to a driver or a co-passenger. Are we equipped for such eventualities?

Surely not. Our State Government has funds to build a stupid monument over the sea. But they have never planned any air lifting medical facilities in Mumbai. This is one facility we need badly in Mumbai, not just when we get Traffucked on the roads, but also in case of disaster management. Is anybody listening????

Present Tense

You are doing everything right in the Present. You are unstoppable. Your Future is shaping as per your Ideas. Then….BANG!!!! Something from the Past crops up…..you start wasting your Present to correct it, you know in your heart this is going to delay the Future….

Happens…happened with me this week in terms of work….a few bad decisions in the Past suddenly decided to pop up, began working to correct them, but surely took away a lot of time, my Present time and set me back.

Sorted it out, but thought me a lesson, never forget your bad decisions of Past, and while working for a better Future, work on correcting the bad decisions simultaneously in the Present.

Currently to sort out my Past, I had to make a few decisions, which like I said will delay my Future plans, but have decided to work towards correcting that too in my Present work…..Currently my Present might be tense, but want to assure that in Future all of that is Past…….

Confused Human race….

When we are kids, we want to grow up

When we are grown up, we want to be kids again

When we are in school, we want to be in college

When we are in college, we want to be in school

When we are single, we want to get married

When we are married, we want to be single

When we dont have kids, we want kids

When we have kids, we dont want kids

When we are living, we want to die

When we are about to die, we want to live….

Confused race … arent we?

Keep pedaling the cycle….

Happened to meet a friend’s dad after ages. Now about to reach 70, his zeal for life is amazing. A very successful entrepreneur, my wife asked him why doesnt he retire now, considering that his two sons are also doing good, he refused to retire.

He says,

“I enjoy my work, I love my work, Its like riding a bicycle, the day I stop pedaling, the cycle will fall off.

I like meeting new people, discussing new Idea’s, which in turn I discuss with others. If I retire, I will not be able to do this, will not be able to discuss new topics, and then people will get bored of me, because I will just keep on sharing my same old past experiences. I like to move on, to new things.”

Amazing thoughts, which have made him very very successful…may he keep on pedaling his cycle….and wish him all the best for his future projects also…

Bhaag Bhaag……

Idhar daud hai, udhar daud hai, yeh jina yaro daud hai, koyee aage hai, koyee pichhe hai, bas bhagam bhag hai daud hai

While going to my bank, happened to see school children, women, men just run…run for the bus….running across the road, running on the footpath, lest they miss their bus. I just stepped aside and let them pass. This gave me an opportunity to look around and see that almost everybody is running…either for the bus or to reach his or her destination on time. Even I for one was walking at a brisk pace to reach my bank, though now that I think of it …I really did not need to.

So what is that makes us run…run for standing ahead in the queue, run to catch the bus, run to catch the train, run to reach our goals, whom are we competing with? Certainly not the people who are running ahead, behind or besides us, but we are certainly trying to compete with time. Time…one that waits for no one. And what will we be winning in the end. Nothing…we will just be just losing the time and opportunity to pause and look around us , to absorb the beauty of life around us. We are running in our lives, trying to earn, and in return losing out on quality time to be spent with our family and friends, before we reach a retirement age.

I paused today…I waited there on the side for a few seconds, if not minutes, and saw the hurried looks on each and every passerby…everybody just running at his pace…racing against time…bas bhagam bhag hai daud hai….

"Poor man runs for his daily food,
While a Rich man runs to digest his daily food"

The Christmas Tree

I have a Christmas tree on my terrace, since past more than 8-9 years. It was brought from Pune from my brother in laws place when he shifted back to Dubai.

 

At that time it was a small tree around 1-2 feet tall, in a small flowerpot. With time we increased the size of the flower pot on suggestion of our gardener. Its height increased more. Then the gardener again suggested a bigger pot. However for a 1-2 years we noticed that there was not much increase in the size. Last year, when the gardener again said change the flower pot, we were surprised to see that the previous pot was still intact in the new pot. The gardener pointed out that this is the reason it has not grown. The previous pot was restricting its growth of roots.

 

Today the height of the tree is around 6ft plus, and the gardener again has suggested increasing the size of the pot to make it grow more. Maybe plant it in the compound now is my opinion.

 

This has taught me one lesson. Give space to people around you to make them grow. Don't restrict their space. The more space you give the people around you, the more they can spread their roots and grow.

Why do we shout in Anger?

Sometimes it is odd, when you are going thru something, and out of the blue, you receive an email which is very effective or somewhat linked to what you are going thru. I am reproducing the email I received from a friend

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people
shout at each other when they are upset?'
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our
calm, we shout for that.'
'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the
saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do
you shout at a person when you're angry?'
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.
Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their
hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able
to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to
shout to hear each other through that great distance.'
Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They
don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are
very close. The distance between them is very small...'
The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in
their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each
other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each
other.'
MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words
that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the
distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.